What to do if a moslem is asking you
to marry him?
Jump to: Your Status Your Marriage Your Sex Life
Your Future Before You Say "I Do"
He is asking for your hand in marriage, and you have fallen in love with
bronze Middle Eastern complexion. He is intelligent, rich, well-educated
well-mannered. So, what more can a woman ask for?...THIS MOST ELIGIBLE
BACHELOR IS ALSO A MUSLIM!
"There will be no problems" he will say, "you can keep your religion, I
keep mine". And while it is true that Islam allows a Muslim man to marry a
Christian woman, is it true that there will be no problems in such a
To answer this question, a woman has to examine what it is like to be a
Islam teaches that men are superior to women." Surah 2:228
Islam teaches that women have half the rights of men:
In court witness Surah 2:282
In inheritance Surah 4:11
Islam considers the wife a possession. "Fair in the eyes of men is the
of things they covet: women and sons, heaped-up hoards of gold and silver;
horses..." Surah 3:14
Islam instructs women to veil themselves always when they are outside
their homes" and say to the believing women...that they should draw
their veils over their bosoms and not display their beauty"Surah 24:31
Mohammed teaches that women are lacking in mind and religion "I have not
seen any one more deficient in intelligence and religion than women" Al
Bukhary vol. 2:541
Muhammed teaches that women are a bad omen. "Bad omen is in the women, the
house and the horse" Al Bukhary vol. 7:30
Mohammed teaches that women are harmful to men "After me I have not left
any affliction more harmful to men than women" Al Bukhary vol.7:33
Islam allows polygamy: A man may marry up to four wives at one time.
women of your choice, two, or three, or four... " Surah 4:3
A man can divorce his wife by oral announcement, the wife has no such
"Divorce is permissible twice" Surah 2:229
When a husband has pronounced divorce three times on his wife, she then
not lawfully remarry her husband until she has married and been divorced
by another man (including having sexual intercourse with him). "...So if
a husband divorces his wife he cannot after that, remarry her until
after she has married another husband, and he has divorced her" Surah
Islam teaches that a wife is subject to punishment by her husband, beating
a wife or abstaining from sexual relations with her is allowed. "As to
those women on whose part ye fear disloyalty and ill-conduct, admonish
them, refuse to share their beds, beat them... " Surah 4:34
Your Sex Life
Islam considers the wife a sex object. "your wives are as a tilth (a field
to be ploughed) unto you, so approach your tilth when or how ye will "
Your children have to be raised according to their Muslim father's
Islam. If he divorces you, he gets custody of the children, and you
wouldn't be able to see your children again.
The Sharia (Islamic Law) states that in mixed marriages "the children will
follow the better of the two religions of their parents", which in your
case is considered Islam. The Quran states that Islam is the only true
religion, "The religion before Allah is Islam" Surah 3:19. Non Muslims
can not act as protectors to Muslims, "O ye who believe; take not for
friends (protectors) unbelievers rather than believers" Surah 4:144
Should you survive your Muslim husband, and his wealth is in an Islamic
country, the Islamic law will apply. The wife who has not converted to
Islam gets nothing, the wife who has converted to Islam gets very
According to the Quran a Muslim wife does not inherit all her husband's
wealth. If the husband dies and he leaves no children, she gets a fourth
of his wealth, his parents, brothers, uncles...etc will get the rest. If
the deceased husband leaves children, then the wife gets an eighth, the
children get the rest; the male child gets double the portion of the
female. "In what ye leave, their (wives) share is a fourth if you leave
no child; but if you leave a child, they (wives) get an eighth ; after
payment of legacies and debts." Surah 4:12
Before You Say "I DO"
Before you commit yourself to marry a Muslim, it is a good idea to examine
the motives behind it. While your motive may be love, his motive could
be just to obtain a "Green Card".
I know, they say "love is blind", I hope however that this message will
serve as an eye- opener for you.
You may say that your husband-to-be is a non-practicing Muslim. But let's
not forget that Islam is more than a religion; it includes a complete
legal code for Muslims and non- Muslims to follow in an Islamic State.
In case of a dispute between you and him, all he needs to do to get the
upper hand over you is to travel to an Islamic country.
If you are still in doubt about this, may I suggest that you see the movie
"Not without my daughter" which is based on a true life story of an
American woman who married a Muslim man. Other similar movies are:
"Princess, Dreams of Trespass, and The Stoning of Soraya M?"
This may be a life-saving experience. The lives you will save are your
own, and those of your future children.
"Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship
hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light
with darkness?" 2 Corinthians